Friendship…! My take on it

Friendship…!

I do not have any friends in my life. When I say this, I do not intend to be a loner, but I mean to state my outlook of friendship. I do interact with lot of people daily, keep in regular touch with them, extend favors to them, help them in time of need, have a social relationship with them and their families but for me friendship is much more than all these. Whatever I have detailed above is more of social networking than friendship. For me, friendship is mush more than all these and is a feeling of oneness and understanding rather than anything else.

The emotional bonding and understanding of each other is what friendship is for me. Such a bonding does not come out of a give and expect relationship. It comes only from a respectful and selfless attitude and that is what true friendship is for me. I have not been successful in friendship in my life till date and I do not want to wash any linen in public. I hold myself responsible to a good extent for not being successful and incompatibility being the other factor.

A give and take relationship does not essentially lead to a good friendship relation. It can result in a good social relation but may not be successful beyond that. Friendship is some relation in which all the parties involved fully understand each other right to the core. A good amount of openness for improvement, understanding each other’s weak areas more than the strongholds are traits of a good friendship relation.

When I say all these, I am fully aware of the tides of time which can season an individual or a relationship. The seasoning may include an optimization in communications and articulation as time progresses owing to the maturing of an individual due to his social progression in life. Proactive understanding and empathizing with each other is a great way of expression of friendship and building it. One key point that we need to understand that it is the liveliness of a relationship that maintains the freshness it and sustains the relationship. The same is true with friendship as well. Frequent interaction and communication is very much required for sustenance of the relationship.

Many relations break or get spoiled because of unnecessary egos, comparisons and misunderstanding owing to deficient communication. This is perhaps more true in friendship than anywhere else. That is where openness comes into picture because when things are discussed openly, there is no room for any of these issues indicated above.

Something which should never be tolerated in a friendship relation is cheating. It may seem to be rude but the folks who cheat their friends should be KILLED as it is something which should not be tolerated at all. That is the reward for cheating in friendship. I have had many bad experiences from my so called friends and that is why I don’t believe in friendship any more. I do not have time to go after all those who cheated me and repay them. I do not have anything to tell them and that is my attitude. There is another category of friends who are more dangerous than the cheaters and they are the ones who was has diplomacy gene in them. They are selfish and are cowards. They will not standby a friend at the time of their need and would be busy trying to save their ass and oiling it, at those times when you need them badly as a friend. Unfortunately, all those people whom I considered to be my friends turned be either cheaters born to whores or diplomatic bastards.

It is very bad to be cheated by a friend in a relation. One needs to be experience it to know the depth of the hurt it causes in your mind and that is why I say that it needs to be repaid by DEATH and only then will the law of karma be balanced in the universe.

I am starting all over again in friendship, after a self metamorphosis and am confident that I will go places in this arena. I have undergone a metamorphosis as I had to improve on so many factors in this arena and had to add on qualities which are much required in friendship. I know that I did not have these before and that is why I accept a part of the blame game in my failed friendship relations. After all, I am not a hypocrite.

Good bye Lucifer…!