Friendship…! My take on it…Contd…

Friendship…! My take on it…Contd…

Further to my first note on this topics, there are some more thoughts which popped up after the post of that piece of writing and hence some more thoughts on the same topic here as a continuation to the writing on my thoughts of friendship.

There is a large class of people who can be termed as opportunistic friends. This class of people believes in making friendship based on the forecasted returns that they can get from that relationship. I hate such people and consider them to be highly venomous.

There is another class of people who tend to be great friends with you but hate any visit of success to you and your family. They want themselves to be on the top always and want to dominate you al the times. They hate you being successful and want you to take advice and help from them always. They have your progression and success in life. This is not friendship but crass egoism.

There are some people who are in your friends circle and then stab you for no logical understandable reason, and that too from behind. I have not yet understood the psyche of such people even though I have met many people like that in my life. I think such people are cowards who cannot come face to face and speak their thoughts out. They are frustrated and psychologically unstable. They are jealous that their friends are moving up the ladder and enjoying things in life which they cannot even imagine of. They are introverts and hence are unable to discuss this with people around them. Since they are cowards, they cannot meet someone face to face. That is why they stab people from behind.

I shared my thought on diplomatic friends in my last piece of writing. I feel that this class of people is more dangerous than all the other categories of friends. This is because this class of people hurt you the most. That s because when you need them the most, they take show their diplomatic face.

With so many kinds of people around you, it is very difficult to get sincere friends. Friendship is a relation that needs to be nourished and not taken for granted. It needs proper understanding and interaction between all parties involved. Once broken, it is better to lave it and move forward in life than trying to repair it. I feel that the pain for a broken friendship relation or an experience of backstabbing can be overcome by inbuilt aggression seasoned with spirituality.

I have always kept away from harming anyone at least knowingly, but have been harmed, thrashed and stabbed by folks whom I considered very close to me for no reason in my comprehension. I still donno why they did those to me. Perhaps, it was a GOD given opportunity in my life to understand about the people around me and to experience and realize the experience of being cheated by so called friends. That experience also helped me to sieve out my list of friends and segregate the true ones from the hollow ones. It has helped me to be a mature and seasoned person in life. As someone who has read and understood Gita, Bible and Quran, I realize what good that incident has done to my life like all other incidents in life. Such incidents help you to move forward in life and acts as a fuel to your journey of life.

For me a true friend sis one whom you can rely on at all times and who is there for you at any time they need you. The relationship of friendship is pure and dignified. All people may not be able to comprehend it and experience it. A true friend is one who will take a hit to protect you and in that case you should return it by hitting back at the enemy with double the force. Only then will the sanctity of the relation be justified.